my boyfriend wants to get married and is letting me pick the ring, i want his birthstone instead of a diamond?
my mother suggested that i get a ring with my own birthstone as well as his birthstone instead of the usual diamond ring. by the way, this is our second marriage
my birthstone is january/garnet and his birthstone is october and depending on where you go, its either opal or pink
by the way, money is no object, he's willing to buy a diamond and thinks this is a good idea though if thats what i want, he said i'm wearing the ring, so he wants me happy for the decision i do.
My own engagement ring is four stones--the birthstone of my parents' anniversary month, my birthstone, his birthstone, and the birthstone of his parents' anniversary month.
We felt it was a nice way to honor our parents and the influence they had on our choice in a mate. They were great models of how great a marriage can be. 
I say go for it. My fiance wasn't sure at first if it would really make me happy not to have a big diamond, but now he knows it has because there is so much more sentimentality with this ring.
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that sounds kinda kool.
go for it, set your own rules.
that sounds like fun.
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What is your question?
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I’ve never heard of that but if that is what you want…go for it.
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That’s a really great idea. Go for it. Nothing wrong with that.
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I guess that would be okay.
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that’s a nice story but not really a question. I like the idea though.
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You can get any stone you want. Congratulations!
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Sounds fine to me, especially for a second marriage. I LOVE the idea one gal had for getting a diamond with each of your birthstones on either side – that could always work too!
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Maybe you could get one with his and your birthstone on it so it would be two birthstones like a second marriage.
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I think that’s kind of romantic.
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get your birthstone.. and if he lets you pay for it.. look for the door..
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I think that would be pretty if the birthstones didn’t clash but it’s your decision…I’m more of a diamond person though because you can never go wrong with a traditional diamond.
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dont get married again .. Once is already a bad mistake… get out while you can
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You should get a custom ring with a small diamond set in the middle and both your and your fiance’s birthstones on either side.
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You go girl
Personally I’m not a big diamond fan. Think they look cold.
I love sapphires though….but birthstones are so meaningful. Nice idea!!!
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That sounds cute, get both stones and a diamond in the middle? You may start a new trend. I like it.
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so what’s the question? I personally wouldn’t do it but if you like it, it’s a neat idea. What about a ring with a diamond in the middle and your two birthstones on the side. That might look nice.
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There’s nothing wrong with going against the "norm". It’s about YOU and if that’s what YOU want, then go for it!
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Sweetie, your ring – your marriage! You should get EXACTLY what you want…besides, I think the idea is kinda cool.
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That is a neat idea. It is your ring, do it however you want. Find a reputable jeweler that can help you select a style that can incorporate your wishes, or one that does design services and design a special ring to accommodate your stones.
Congrats and good luck!
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It’s your marriage,if you want his birthstone get it
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I would get his birthstone too
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why dont you get one with both of your birthstones in it, or if he’s willing to pay for it why dont you get a small diamond with both of your birthstones surrounding it?
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While I have a diamond, and love diamonds, I would say Go for it! It’s your ring and to think it’ll be a lot cheaper. I know of only one person who has an nontraditional wedding ring and it looks fine. Think about it – People may mistake this as just another ring, not a wedding ring, though.
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so youre too poor to afford a diamond? get real
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Sounds like a great idea to me. The symbolism is yours and yours alone—don’t let anybody tell you any different. Lots of people choose different stones for engagement rings. This choice also shows that you value your love more than $$.
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I do not believe in diamonds, save the money and invest it somewhere. I think your mother is right.
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Kool, well there is no rool that u r only engaged with a diamond. The reall engagment is when u agree to marry him. Good luck with it!
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That sounds like a good idea. It is your engagement ring you should pick it out, or get what you like. Congratulations!!!
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i think both your and your mothers idea sounds great. but what does he think? tell him both of the ideas and get his input. then make your decision.by the way you dont need to tell him whos idea is whos.
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I don’t know if you are looking for approval or not but I think it is a wonderful idea. Diamonds rings are simply that where are having one with your and his birthstones is much more creative. Nice idea.
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its not the stone in the ring, its the ring itself that is the sign of committment. I say go for it.
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Why not go for the Diamond with both of your Birthstone on either side of it, that way it represtents your lifes ( birthstones) and path to finding eachother and becoming one in marriage (diamond)
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That’s great,! Your thinking out side the box! Kudos to you!
No one ever said (well, except for jewelers) that diamonds were mandatory at a wedding. Both your birthstones will look great and signify even more!!! I am a married man and I think it is truly romantic and speaks volumes of the though and heart you are putting into this.
Congratulations to you both!!!
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welp if thats the way you want it go for it. but you should have his birthstone on one side then a diamond then your birthstone on the other side of the diamond. I’ve seen that before and it is really really cute! I also wanna wish you good luck and Congrats on your marriage!
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nothing wrong with going nontraditional (i like the idea of both of your stones better than just his)…..just remember that whatever you pick, you’ll be wearing it day in day out forever
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I would go with your birthstone. The pledge is to you, not vice versa.
Good luck in your marriage!
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Sounds like a great idea. Compromise… Get a ring that has his birth stone as the center stones with smaller birthstones representing your birth month flanking each side of the center stone on the ring, or vice versa.
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that sounds really neat! I think the garnet/opal combo would look nice.
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Birthstone=WONDERFUL! you really love the guy….sooo romantic…Good Luck!
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I think it is a good idea. You don’t have to follow along with everyone and be traditional and get a diamond ring. I think opal would be pretty, and you can decide if you want only his birthstone, or both of yours. But I think its a great idea.
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I think that is a really neat idea. It has sentimental value and that is the most important part of an engagement ring!
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That’s really unique. I like it. You should get both yours and his birthstones on eachothers rings. I agree with your mother.
Congrats!!!
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As long as you are happy with the ring that’s all that should – and apparently does – matter. I once had a fiance who wanted a peridot (sp) stone for her ring. About the cheapest stone you can buy. I too was willing to go diamond, but she insisted that was what she wanted. It’s your ring, your happiness. It’s not like it’s a law to wear a diamond.
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Opals are very fragile, not strong enough for every day wear. Garnets are strong and lovely. If money is no object, look at a tanzanite! They are exceptionally beautiful.
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It’s a nice idea, just make sure you get an opinion from a reputable jeweler to find out which stone is best. When I did mine, I was told that some stones are precious, some semi-precious, and some not at all. The semi and precious will withstand the wear that they will get with constant wear. Good luck, and congratulations!
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get any thing you want for it will most likely be the last time you will have anything to say .hope you have a happy marriage
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Sounds like a good idea to me, it’s *your* ring, get whatever it is you’re gonna be happy with. Mine was blue topaz, for no other reason than that I like the color.
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That sounds really neat. Why not get a three-stone ring with the garnet in the middle and pink stones on the sides?
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I think that’s a great idea. I love opals.
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